"Women wish to be loved without a why or a wherefore; not because they are pretty, or good, or well-bred, or graceful, or intelligent, but because they are themselves." -- Henri Frederic Amiel
I loved this quote when I saw it earlier. It got me thinking about a blog I read last week, it was written by Dan Pearce, he writes "Single dad laughing" I love his blog. Anyways he came to a realization and I love this realization he came to. Women do not love themselves, not because of the magazines, the movie stars, or each other. Rather it is because of men, particularly the way men view women.
As a women, and one who struggles with weight issues I know this oh so well. I was that girl in high school who always wanted to go to prom, and my best friends who were guys wouldn't take me, but would chalk up some excuse that another guy would. I was the girl who had a really cute skinny girlfriend who would tell me that my personality and her looks would make the perfect girl. It hurt. I guess it still does. I believe it is true, women are beautiful whether we are thin or fat, pretty, or clumsy, and if men saw that real beauty within each of us and appreciated us as women, not as sex objects they would realize we have alot to offer them.
I am 27, I have several really good friends, we are all in the older twenties to early thirties. I often look at them and think, Gosh why aren't these smart beautiful ladies snatched up? Then I look at the guys around us and their ideals, and most of all, their straying eyes. Seriously guys, you do not see what good women are in front of you because you are looking for a women who is skinny, blond, tall, big boobs, you know the ones. And don't think I don't know because I do. The dad, you know the single one I mentioned earlier said it right. We notice you looking. You try stealth glances at the magazines, you check out girls on the streets, sometimes even when women are with you. We notice, and it hurts.
The truth about women, you want it men? It is easy. Women want to feel loved. Need to feel needed, listened to, and all without having to change who they are. We want to feel beautiful just the way we are. Loved just the way we are. We don't want to feel like we need to be someone else, without words we feel that pressure. Let that Lady you love know, tell her she is perfect, tell you love her, but then show her, don't look at the magazine, the other women, look at her, really look at her. She will notice, and trust me, you will recoginze the change it brings in both of you!